Of course uR. When I say "help" her I don't mean explain anything to her, just be there for her to have someone other then myself or her mom to talk to about things. She is going to be angry and upset and will need someone other than us to talk about it with. I will try to be as neutral as I can with her but I really can only see this from my side. As for my W, she may not even be neutral as she says she will but she says many things and even if she tries to be, just like me she really only see's things from her point of view. That, along with her unbelieveable fear that our D14 will hate her because she is the one leaving and I don't think she can be very neutral.
My D18 is taking this much better than I even hoped. I have been honest with her since B-day and it has made a difference. She is confused as to why her mom would do this but not angry, at least not openly. When we get to the point of her mom moving that may change. Remember, as of now her mom has not once said a thing to either of them that she even is thinking of doing this. She will now need to tell them that not only is she leaving but that she filed without even separating first. That is really a bad way to this! Give them some time to wrap their heads around things first, then move forward slowly would be the right thing to do. My W says she wants the "right" kind if D. The kind that doesn't "hurt" the kids. So far she is doing it the worst way possible, at least as I see it.
Of course this is par for the course with my W. Her inability to think things through is a big reason we are where we are now. Just part of her MLC mind set I guess!
