In house separation?

[mdu]

So H and I had a conversation about possibly trying an in house separation. Not necessarily immediately but maybe in a few weeks. We're toying with the idea anyway. Wondering if anyone has experience with this (after a physical separation)? I know we'd have to be REAL clear with purpose and conditions. The biggest downside is I would lose my biggest point of leverage by allowing H back in the house when he has not fully agreed to reconciling. It still would be a separation for sure. He clearly still wants some space and really I should keep some distance anyway to work on my own 'stuff'. We have a big enough house that he could stay down in our basement family room, separate bed, bathroom, etc.

I would definitely have conditions including continued no contact with OW but since we would not be agreeing to fully reconcile not sure I would demand a full transparency plan at this point. But I would gain more time with and access to my kids and more opportunity for he and I to connect and show him changes. We both agreed that it's a challenge for he and I to try to reconnect and work on things not physically living together so this was a *possible* solution we're contemplating.

Any thoughts/experiences most welcome.