KGirl - Movin' On and Out!

[labug]

H has texted me 5 times already tonight - random questions like "Do you know where the big flashlight is? How many trips did you have to make to move? Were there a lot of neighbors outside?" I waited awhile before responding and then answered as briefly as possible.

I'm feeling like just being alone and not getting out and doing things. I know I should make an effort to do so because being alone while being depressed will just make it worse. I had the thought today "I don't feel like going on my vacation at the end of the month anymore. Maybe I should postpone it." I don't want to force myself to do something I don't feel like doing...maybe I'll feel better at the end of the month. Just thinking of getting up and going to get the rest of my stuff out of the car seems very difficult right now.

Slow down! You're right, you don't know how you'll feel at the end of the month but if you decide today you're going to be depressed then, most likely you will be.

Stop the texting back and forth. He throws that hook out and you bite it, every time. Let it float right by you. All of his sharing is about getting his needs met and has nothing to do with you or your needs. He has an IC to share with and work out his issues. Gently remind him of that when he starts unloading on you.

Allow yourself to settle into the new place and the new reality but make a goal to do something new each day, even if it's just a walk around the new neighborhood.

You've got this.