Help please

[Maybell]

I forgot to add that I asked him again if he values my friendship and he said he did. Then he asked "Is it an all or nothing thing for you?" meaning, must the friendship go with the marriage?

I said that for our entire life together our family and marriage had been my number one priority and that any friend I had would support my priorities, not trash them, rip my heart out, and stomp on it. I said I was sorry if he hadn't felt like he was a priority to me but that I had been and remained interested in hearing what he needed and that I was willing to do the best I could to make our lives balanced and happy together. That I was willing to wait some period of time for him to figure out what he needed but that I wouldn't wait forever. He said, "I'm aware that I don't have forever. I know who you are." For the record he has, several times in the past, said he felt like I was more patient and loyal than was good for me, both with regards to himself and with regards to other people from my past. So I don't know if that was a dig or said sincerely, like he respects me and my boundaries.

I said again that trust was the most important thing to a friendship for me and that if I couldn't trust him to treat me with consideration (and mentioned how frustrated I was about how he ignored me last weekend at the park), and that I can't be friends with people who hurt me.

Last night he stayed with the kids while I was out and after I got back (this would have been four couples if he hadn't left me) he asked if anyone talks about him. I said of course not, that would be hurtful to me, though they are concerned about my well-being and offered whatever help I needed. I told him they had asked me how I wanted them to treat him and that I'd told them, how they would treat him if none of this were going on. He said he really appreciated that, and that I had been explaining the situation to people without telling everybody about the affair. I told him that my share of the friendship is recognizing that he's going to be in my life (because of the kids) for a very long time and that there was no reason for things to be ugly. He said again that he appreciated it, that he was glad I had such good friends around me, and that I had been having such a great social life the last few weeks.

So, since I'm not allowed to, anybody want to do any mind-reading for me???