I can understand what you are feeling. I have three ten daughters. My oldest was pushing her weight around as well much as you have described. Last summer it came to a head. She filed for a restraining order against me and my STBX went along with it. Luckily it was averted but things were really strained.
Things have come full circle now. All three are living with me and we are improving are relationship all the time.
My advice is that she will come back to you in time. Be consistent. Make sure she always knows you are there for her. Always try to at least ask her when she is coming home when ever she goes out.
This was advice given to me and it worked for me.
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