Well, I don't have much to report, but here it is.
On my travels after work yesterday, I decided that my best course of action in my dealings with Mr. Wonderful right now are to detach some more (lovingly, of course).
I was feeling a little edgy, which I recognize now as my trigger for crazymaking. And the urge was there in full force.
So when Mr. Wonderful called my cell while we were in Costco, I let it go to voicemail. He wanted to give me a golf tournament update and left it at that.
He called from bowling awhile later, which I found out was answering D10's voicemail call to him earlier. I "let" her answer the phone, and they addressed the problem she's having with her new reading glasses...
I also heard her say, "Dad, you won't believe it! Mom found a bowling alley for my party on Saturday night!!! She saved the day!"
I was watching Super Millionaire and not really in a mood to talk to him--because earlier, I was fantasizing about how I would tell him I was filing for D--and hoped he didn't want to talk to me.
As luck would have it, she said she wanted to watch the show (he had fortunately called during a commercial break) and had to go.
As I dropped her off at school this morning, I told her, "If I don't manage to talk to Dad today, you can tell him mac & cheese is what's for dinner (it's Ash Wednesday) and that I'll be home by 6:30 to take you and D6 to head to church."
I heard the usual groan, although she asked me to go on Monday. I swear that kid keeps me in circles. Mark my words, after getting her ashes, she'll thank me for making the effort to go...
So, Mr. Wonderful called me a few minutes ago--VERY chipper and seemingly upbeat. He asked me to share details about bowling and then gave me the golf tournament info again verbally (I guess in case I didn't understand the voicemail?).
I thanked him for the information and we then hung up.
No more initiation on my part, unless it's absolutely necessary. I will be upbeat and nice but nothing more and nothing less.
It seemed to work in the past, so I'll give it a shot again.
Another crazymaking attempt thwarted...
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
