Sorry to hear of you story there. I feel for you too.
Nothing like a Wayard Spouse can make us tear ourselves apart for the answers.
I literally rebuilt myself from the ground up.

Thank you for the advice and believe me, there is absolutely no way I will entertain any talk of the future unless the OW has been kicked to the curb.
That and her bitchy jealous friend that validates all of her atrocious behaviour towards me.

Anything I do is a waste of time when they are on the scene. I learned that the hard way.

One day, both of ours will realise they made a very bad decision. Whether they will be able to make ammends by that time still is anybody's guess.

Truth be told, after a year now, I'm tired of her sh*t.

Suspected EA: Feb 2013
Bomb drop: Mid March 2013
Separation: Mid April 2013
(I fought for marriage)
Filed for Divorce: April 2014
Accidental Exposure of affair: June 2014