Lol. Actually I did clean it myself. Many many times. And yes there are different perceptions. But I don't think that was really the question I was asking. During our m my w made many many request of me. Things she wanted or need. If she said "this is important to me" I pretty much did what she asked. If it was important to her then it was important to me. I don't think she would argue that if she was here. How did a fail in communicating that something was important to me? Even when I presented in black and white
As a side note I'm curious why everyone is sensitive about the stay at home parent. It's a job. Not an easy one. I know that. I value it. It's part of the m. In our case 50% since we were a single income family. I'm not sure why having and expectation of that job is wrong. My w certainly had an expectation of me as the income provider. She said as much. Was I wrong to also have an expectation of her? I have a job that unfortunately I don't like but it pays very well. It's also straight juice( that's commission for those who don't know). There is a certain amount of pressure in a commissioned job and knowing that you are the single income for your family. I've done it for 17 years because I wanted my w and kids to have the best I could provide. She was very capable of keeping a better house. But as she told me many times she just didn't want to, it wasn't important to her. I think that hurt me a lot. Not so much the house but knowing that something that was important to me wasn't worth the effort to her.
