I have a hunch that you know the answer to the above questions. I can tell you that I did the same as you CW. I did not communicate my needs well instead i kept quiet became resentful and later got angry. They are very passive/aggressive behaviors. Those behaviors will destroy a marriage.
If you wanted the house clean they way you thought it should have been clean...How come you didnt clean it yourself? May be in the eyes of your W the house was clean? There are always different perceptions to things. Keep posting u doing good
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”