I'm Just About Ready For The Fork

[Georgiabelle]

Congratulations Tad! I know you will knock it out of the park on this second interview:)

[job]

That's great news! A second interview? That's serious and it shows that they are interested. This gives you time to get yourself together and present yourself in an even better light than the first time. Dig deep for that inner confidence, because I know you have it.

[AJM]

2nd interview? That's great news Tad. Glad to hear it. Seems to me, that a 2nd interview is a way of saying they want to see if they like you. I know they will

AJ

[Wonka]

YAY!!! Way to go, Tad.

Time to buckle down your belt and ACE this second interview.

To help you prepare for the second interview, I'd suggest that you head over to the library [or order them] and use the following three books.

The 250 Job Interview Questions You'll Most Likely Be asked...and the answers that will get you hired! by Peter Veruki ISBN: 1-58062-117-1

60 Seconds and You're Hired! by Robin Ryan ISBN: 0 14 02.8903 8

Negotiating Your Salary: How To Make $1,00 a Minute by Jack Chapman

Please note that the book by Jack Chapman is out of print. You might have success by ordering through Amazon or Barnes & Noble. The ISBN for this booklet is: 0-89815-890-7.

In using the negotiating techniques in the book, I was able to negotiate an extra $10,000 on top of the base salary. Sweet! Easy peasy!

Good luck!

[tadpole1025]

Just checking in.

Thanks for the well wishes everyone. I really hope I get this job. It's just so long before my next interview. Wish I could just do it and get it over with. The interview isn't until the 18th.

Wonka, I will check out the reading material. I also have some other ones I'm going to check out as well.

I'm a little down today. As I mentioned in an earlier thread titled: "Something Is Wrong With Me", I've become very attached (almost scary attached) to my little girl ratties. I'm just feeling a little down because I've notciced in the last couple of days that they are sleeping a lot more and not eating as much. Even when I let them out for playtime, they seem to just want to sleep. They are starting to show their age. Makes me pretty sad. They have brought me so much joy and happiness over the last year and a half. I just can't imagine losing them, but I know I will eventually. A couple of months ago, I went and had them tattooed on my arm. Crazy, I know, but like I said, they have really helped me a lot and brought me a ton of joy. They truly are the best pets I've ever had.

Sorry for the rant. I just wanted to get my feelings out.

Tad

[tadpole1025]

Ok. I have a question that hopefully somebody can answer.

About 3 weeks ago, XW told S23 that she had paid off her student loans. Well, in the last week, I've received 3 phone calls from the student loan place wanting their money. The funny thing is, they are asking for XW's married name.

Now the question isn't why she would lie about it because I realize that she is an MLCer and all she does is lie. The question is: How would they get my number especially since it is in her married name? The boys seem to think that she gave it to them. I'm not sure she would, but if she did, why? What would be the point when I can simply call back and set them straight?

Is this just another way of her trying to get to me?

Tad

[MrBond]

"Is this just another way of her trying to get to me?"

The bigger question to ask is WHY DO YOU CARE?

Your W doesn't care spit about you, yet you constantly ask about why she does what she does. For 3 years you've been doing that and what has it gotten you? Nothing.

Just give the school your W's information and forget about it. Stop asking questions like she actually is giving you the time of day.

[tadpole1025]

Sorry I asked.

[job]

Tad,
No, she's not trying to get to you. Some crisis people do stuff like this. For example, my xh was gone 6 years and we were divorced 3 years and I get a call from his auto insurance company wanting to speak to him about his new vehicle and what insurance he wanted updated. When I asked how they got my number, the woman said he had given it to her. Did I sit there and think he was trying to get to me? No, I thought he was just plain nuts, but I did inform him after the holiday weekend to contact his insurance agent about he call and I also advised her that my number is to be removed from whatever paperwork he had given her.

Sometimes they do things and really don't think about it. Maybe your number was given off the top of her head at that time...but whatever the reason, you need to stop thinking that she's trying to get at you. She's married and moved on and you are still sitting there thinking each and every time she does something, she's doing it to get at you. This is not always the case. They are just plain out to lunch.

Tad, you need to start looking at your situation a bit differently and try to find some humor in some of the stuff she does. Sometimes they do things for attention and the only way to get it is to pull the rabbits out of the hat, i.e., whether it's positive or negative and again sometimes it's done w/o thinking about the consequences of their actions. Bottom line, you have to let this stuff go.

Keep your focus on your upcoming interview. That is what is important right now. Leave your xh to her new husband. She's his problem now, not yours.

[Georgiabelle]

Tad,

Job is right. I know you are still hurting. However, looking at the insanity with a little humor goes a long way.