If he wants to find himself, he needs plenty of alone time to do so.
I'm going through the exact same thing right now. It's been exactly 1 month since we've had contact. It's hard, really hard to do.
Give him a chance to miss YOUR presence.
So you have not seen or talked to her in a month? That seems next to impossible for me. You are stronger than I am for sure. Good Job though and good luck.
M:33 W:30 T:10 M:2 B/D: 5/27/14 S: 5/28/14 Wife moved back in 7/18/14