hope456 - he filed, what now?

[hope456]

I'm going to be blunt. Getting a divorce isn't going to make your h a better father.

First, go for it Second, I know it isn't. It is one of the many justifications he has for his actions in his head. If I'm not married, I'll be happier. If I'm happier, I'll be a better dad. I haven't bought into it at any point since he said it. The hypocrisy of the statement when compared to his actions is just SO much sometimes.

I often feel bad for the LBS who has many hopes on their WAS or MLCer going to IC. Although IC can be extremely beneficial, you can spend thousands of $$$$ and if you a) aren't truly honest b) aren't willing to do the work, then you will get a better return throwing $ up in the air.

I did encourage my H to go to IC, but only in hopes that he can work some of his issues out and be a better dad, not because I thought he would have a sudden awakening and decide to save our M. Does that make sense?

Thank you for posting. Don't worry about offending me I've got pretty thick skin most of the time.