Any T, I think, should be future oriented, toward making a better new relationship (the current one is dead), perhaps understanding where things went wrong, and exposing the roots if possible. I think I've always been afraid of rejection - even sending you the Steve Albini quote made me a bit nervous (what will SD think of me now?) - it would be so wonderful to get to a confident, don't give a d--m place, and just be me, alive and free, with other people. Luke
