What I meant was that I was going to approach the subject, again. To see & understand what the hold up is.... and I was right, he was "blocking" me because he feels that we need to still "talk" more about it
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Isn't that the same behavior/response he has used in the past when approached by this subject? He wants to talk (stall),,,,,but nothing is accomplished through his talks. He clearly doesn't want you tampering with the finances previously set. It Iappears that it works for him, and that's good enough (in his PV).
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He is stalling for 2 reasons. 1) because he feels he is letting go of "HIS" business 2) he is overwhelmed with worry/concern about the current status of our business location.
Did he actually say he felt as if he was letting go of "his" business? Wow! I would have been furious. You see, he has been the one in control of his finances and your finances. I think he feels the business is really his, and you are just the assesories (like using jewelry). In other words, your end of the "partnership" of this business was only on paper. But he doesn't treat you (IMO) like an equal partner. Before the board members encouraged you to protect yourself, had you ever challenged him? I can see why you wouldn't when you were in such a long term R. These are the problems when entering a business partnership in "good faith". You depended on him to "take care of you" the way he had for 20 yrs. I can tell you that if push came to shove, he would look out for himself and leave you to survive anyway you could.
You need a good lawyer working for you, otherwise I believe xbf is going to scr3w you over in this business relationship. So far, he has been successful holding you back and throwing a few cracker crumbs around. You are not some starving chicken who is scratching in the dirt for whatever has been thrown away.
Forget these talks. They do nothing but stall action.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
