Rick. It ain't easy. It takes years and years and years. I fell in love with w the day I met her. And for a good amount of time that love was very deep. But after marriage w stopped being w. She changed. And the changes weren't good. And the changes weren't easy to see, they were small and slow but they were there. And after 17 years she wasn't the person I feel in love with. No before everyone jumps in with "isn't change part of life and growth". Yes of course it is. But her changes weren't with the m. She didn't grow with me as a couple. I don't really know how to explain. Sorry .