No mind reading on what her L asst said this is an exact quote from my W. As for the rest I see what you are saying. My W had someone call and leave a message for my W while D and I were making a pizza today. It was her rental agent telling her her new place is ready to move in. You should have seen the look on my D14's face. Still my W hasn't spoken to her. I didn't because her sister called and said she would be back tonight and I thought it best to wait as she and I both can talk to my younger together. Turned out she was delayed and now won't be back until tomorrow morning.
On another front I think my W may have a date for a wedding she is going to tomorrow. Not sure but it seems that way. Funny but I really don't care at this point. I really don't. I need to speak to my W and let her know that I really don't care to stop her from leaving as I think she really thinks I do. I need to ask her to please be calm and listen. I have no intention of taking your D from you or trying to make her hate you. I don't even want you to stay the way you are now, not taking any responsibility for any part in the break down of our M. I also feel you need time on your own to see if that is the secret to being happy. Maybe your right and it is. Maybe not but until you try you will never be able to be in the type of R that I want. I don't hate you, in fact I still care about you but not the same way or the way you seem to think I want from you. I do think you made a mistake by moving to D so suddenly but that is your choice to make. I am willing to be flexible when it comes to custody but I do want to be primary. I will give my best to get D14 to spend 50% of her time with you at least in the very beginning but if she decides she would like to stay with me most of the time after, I am in favor of that. I hope that some day you understand that there is much more going on within you than a bad marriage and I hope that when you do I will not have moved so far past from you that I won't be able to help you if you need it.
I have no desire to hurt my W. I just know I must do what's best for my D. I really don't think my W is in the right mind to even come close to taking care of her. She is just too caught up in her own selfishness and her dad's being sick and her wanting his attention to handle all that she will have to alone. She really wants to believe she will find happiness just by being on her own, not part of a couple, and that is just fantasy that will backfire on her. In the meantime I can't waste any more time or energy on her as I must take care of so much more including my D's and how hurt they will feel. She will either find what she is looking for or she won't. That is totally on her now.
