Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

However, the following is the second moment I wish I could go back and change.
I arrived to find her very cold and withdrawn. It seemed like the progress we had made was all gone.

A few weeks later, when I was back here closing up a few things, I discovered she was in contact with the guy she had an EA with years ago. I was furious.

I emailed her that what she was doing was unacceptable and that she was deceitful. I said a few things about her

In hindsight, I handled that completely wrong and even worse, by email.

After a couple of days, I called back to apologize for my approach. She was upset, asked me not to return and suggested we separate to figure things out.

This is when I discovered the DR book and began the 'real' DB process. 9 months ago. I say 'real' because in retrospect, I was jumping from solution to solution only focused on getting us back together. The separation made me realize how close we were to D.

Wrapping on trust, and why I think she does not trust me. For most of last year (2013), she was very angry at me. I had to make some financial decisions for us. My dilemma was that she would not give me the time of day. But finding out I had made some of these, she would get very upset that I had done so without discussing it with her. That I obviously didn't care for her opinion. This is also the context of the scenarios in my initial question that you responded to Underdog.