Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

She came for a visit in April 2013, extremely hostile for most of it. Frustration got the better of me. I sat her down and asked what was going on. I felt that I had been trying my best. Very short sighted of me. I was not aware of the WAS syndrome at the time nor made the connection to what I had gone through myself.

That's when she gave me the "I love you but I am not in love with you. How do we know we are right for each other? We have never been with anyone else but each other?"

Many know that sickening feeling hearing those words.

I began to snoop and found out that she had strong feelings for a gay male co-worker. I confronted her about it a few months later. She denied it at first then admitted to it. She tried to blame me for it but I was quite upfront about her responsiblity in making decisions for herself.

We made some small progress after this. Conversations a bit lighter. Some affection from her. By Sept. 2013, I was on my way to join her as we had originally planned, ending the long distance.