Second, what do you think of her reaction to you talking about what she needs from you in R? IMO, it doesn't seem positive. Something similar to telling someone you love them and their reply is "Thank you".
At first I was thinking it was positive, but yeah I guess you're right it's not good. It's like she thinks she deserves all this from me. Even after everything she's done.
Originally Posted By: Nettles
And why even discuss what W can get from you? It seems like it should be about what needs to happen to start process of working on R by W meeting Rec's boundaries.
Yes it should, but for some reason when I talk to her I get into this mode of trying to win her. Why I do this instead of her trying to make me happy, I don't know. I'm still trying to be like a savior or something for her. Too much nice guy in me I still need to get rid of.
Originally Posted By: Nettles
There seems to be a cycle of "Rec done -> W shows interest -> Rec talks possibility of recon -> W's interest lessens -> Repeat"
Are you in my house, lol? Yeah that's pretty much how the cycle goes. The funny thing is that I have the same cycle as well. When she goes to OM I get mad, angry, and hope she comes back to me. Then when she shows interest and is not with OM I'm like uhhh... no thanks.
I have a lot of issues with her. I just don't know. The biggest thing is that I have been using this divorce as an opportunity to improve myself, stop being lazy, and become more of the man that I want to be. She, in my opinion, has just gotten worse. I think all the lying she has done has just warped her brain.
