Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

As my resentment built, I began to really withdraw and stopped pursuing her even for sex. I remember one conversation where I told her 'I give up. When you are ready to talk about what is really bothering you, and about our finances, you let me know.'

This is when I became a WAH. I never left our home nor did I have a EA/PA. But I was convinced I was only an accessory in her life and my opinions or needs didn't matter to her. Unfortunately, this lasted over a two year time period where I really neglected her emotionally. I often felt very emotionally overwhelmed. Physically and emotionally, I felt I had no capacity to hold on. I quite literally gave up. I would come home from work, barely acknowledge her and binge watch TV until early morning. I did felt very confused and conflicted about my negative feelings. Not just about her but about myself and what I felt I had become. Bitter, resentful, tired, loss of ambition.

She pursued me, tried to get me to open up, did nice things for me,etc. But I still felt unheard about the issues I wanted to discuss. The more she tried to be nice, the more resentful I became.