I just can't seem to have a civil conversation with my ex regarding important aspects of s3's life.
Bullet points.
She's been with dude for less than 2 months
She introduced s3 to him a month ago
Dude is moving in with her
Dude is watching s3 by himself this Sunday(never supervised my son alone before and I have no clue if he's capable of it other than my ex saying not to worry)
So far I've tried to express my stance on all of this as neutrally as possible. Apparently my point has not come across to her. We had a blowup today. She says I've never communicated anything with her. Several weeks ago I said my thoughts on s3 meeting him. She twists and "forgets" things that have been said. I'm actually scared to bring anything up regarding our son. It s*cks!!!
During our "discussion" today she asked how I felt about dude watching him. I tried to not talk about it but finally I said I'm not comfortable with it. That started the whole argument. She asked why, and without waiting for an answer from me, proceeded to twist it around and saying that I don't trust her judgment. Then she tangents off onto how she's trying to start up a life and blah blah blah.
She actually called me crazy and an [censored] and justified it by saying she was at her breaking point. She mentioned "if" we were in counseling the counselor "would" say, "are you open to meeting him?(dude)". I had to stop her right there. She's talking hypotheticals and my real life counselor has stated to me many times how unbalanced, unhealthy, emotionally abusive, immature, selfish, etc. my ex has been. I simply said "my counselor has said otherwise". At that point my ex decided to twist sh*t around again and said that my counselor has been feeding me sh*t and that I can't think for myself. I had enough at that point. I said "I can't think for myself?" She said that's her opinion. So I told her its my opinion that you're immature and selfish. She called me an [censored] and hung up.
I really need to figure out how to communicate with crazy. She still owes me daycare money but I'm getting to the point I'm scared to ask her for it, but I know I need to keep pushing her. She owes me over 500 dollars(daycare, furniture etc) and she claims she doesn't owe me a cent. K, I'll bite the bullet on the previous debt but this last week I paid for all of day are when we are supposed to pay half each. Her excuse is she's waiting on her new cheque books to come in. C'mon!! There's bank machines everywhere and I'll gladly take cash.
Anyway, how the heck do you enforce boundaries/concerns regarding child with the least amount of damage with someone who is unstable?
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
