You might be very familiar with feeling like a victim. But this is a passive, unempowered position, leaving you waiting for words or actions from someone else, something you cannot control.
Taking responsibility means being open to recognizing how your own internal landscape is feeding your suffering. What thoughts make you unhappy? What feelings are stuck in your body and heart? How do you make yourself suffer by recycling negative memories through your mind?
Being stuck in the past means that a part of your heart is closed. Take responsibility for going right into those bruised and tender places.
Take care of you and only you for now.
Maybe it's just me, but I have no earthly idea what any of that even means.
How does sticking one's head in the sand about one's current reality make them a "victim?" I would contend just the opposite -- the truth and accuracy of what you learn empowers you.
