Separately, you work with your OWN L on what you want in custody and divorce.
All we know, from what you post here, is that you want primary with D14.
Ok...what about the rest? What are your non-negotiables??
You really need to think through every detail and then lay it all out to your lawyer. Then he'll be clear on what you want and don't want. He'll use that as a framework in discussions with W's L.
Of course..."outside" forces are W's L and FIL. That is how people divorce. Having two lawyers represent their clients. What's the mystery here?
Friends telling W what she wants to hear. Nothing new here. It is all blather and why do you give this so much weight?! Who cares what other people think of you?
Her lawyer's asst. telling her that "from what this says your H must have said he wants full custody with limited visitation".
Do you have a solid proof of this ^^? How do you know this factually? Did you plant a bug in their office? You don't know at all. Major mindreading.
