Snooping on him will get you nowhere. I snoop for months, spent crazy $$$$ on private investigator and nothing to show for it. Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you. what you focus on is what will grow. If you cultivate sadness, regret, and revenge, then they will become your reality.
You might be very familiar with feeling like a victim. But this is a passive, unempowered position, leaving you waiting for words or actions from someone else, something you cannot control.
Taking responsibility means being open to recognizing how your own internal landscape is feeding your suffering. What thoughts make you unhappy? What feelings are stuck in your body and heart? How do you make yourself suffer by recycling negative memories through your mind?
Being stuck in the past means that a part of your heart is closed. Take responsibility for going right into those bruised and tender places.
