Not sure if it matters but he's actually never said he wants a D. When directly asked he's actually said he does NOT want to D, although obviously the fact is he is unsure otherwise we'd be back together.

I would want to know because with all the warming and now spending time chatting and even a lunch 'date' today I would feel like such an utter fool if in fact he were continuing A. I think I could forgive him for the A but if he's continuing to play me now, after he was confronted and supposedly ended it, I don't know I could forgive that, I don't know if I could continue as I am spending time with him, etc.

Also, it seems SO common for A's to continue unbeknownst to LBS. I'm afraid I am kidding myself. I don't like that feeling.

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14