I have to say, this conversation about transparency makes me feel quite hopeless. I can't see how I can 'snoop' on H while we are physically separated. He is aware of the things I have access to (phone records, CC) so I don't think he would be THAT dumb to use them (he knows I do look at them on occasion). So what are my intel options while we're not even physically together?


M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14