Dev, FWIW, I think your boundary about not talking about your relationship until the A/OM is done is a very reasonable one. It also happened to be one of mine. I think it's smart.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014