Hey CW....very interesting post I will say. As others have said, people generally come here in an effort to save their M, so I'm a little confused as what you're hoping to get from the community.
As Eric said, maybe in the back of your mind you still question if it's the right choice? You certainly sound like you have tons of resentment and hurt....and that tends to cloud our judgement.
One thing I often say is DB is about saving your M, but if you do the work, even if you don't manage to save your M, you can save yourself. Perhaps in your case, that's a place to focus since you're not interested in the former (at least not at the moment).
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
So my advice is take a look inside dude….take a look hard look inside. You may not like what you see….and it will be hard to change…but when YOU do….
Ohhh…it is so worth it.
That is super advice. Most of us don't want to look in the mirror, to take responsibility, to own OUR choices. It's hard. It's especially hard because most of the time we look and think, "how awful." I know I did....I was embarrassed, ashamed even.
So start there....what don't you like about YOUR role in the M? What don't you like about YOU?
As Eric said, if you don't address your own stuff, you will most likely drag that from one relationship to the next. Do yourself a favor, regardless as to whether you choose to work on your M or not, work on yourself.
