Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden on you guys

[Barrybran]

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As for your second question, from what I've learned here and about infidelity, I feel that someone would stay until something (someone) perceived to be better came along. You'll read a quote quite often throughout here: be a spouse only a fool would leave.