hope456 - he filed, what now?

[25yearsmlc]

Hope

I'm glad you went out and had some FUN. Yay!! You so deserve it.
And congrats to D7 for being a smartypants girl!


Hey, 2 thoughts keep running thru my head when I read your post above. About how you fear he won't really truly "show up" for your d, like his dad didn't and like your mom didn't.

1) even if you stayed married, this "not showing up" might happen. I mean, he's pretty darn self absorbed NOW....

and

2) while this may be the last thing you want to hear right now, I have to say that a divorce at least would free you up to meet someone you know will show up for her and you.

I cannot help but believe that sometime in the future, you may come to see that in the long run, he has done you a favor....

I just really believe that you'll be better off without this type of man in your life.

Sure, he could change, & we can all pray and hope he does. But if not, I just don't know what it is you are losing in a partner.

I understand if you are not ready to hear this^^...and I'm sorry if that's the case. I don't mean to rush you out of the m at all.

Just thinking there IS a silver lining here....and in time, even if you end up just loving yourself more and living out of his shadow and Not waiting for the next shoe to drop, you'll be more than alright.

Keep on keeping on!