Was that your complaint about your spouse or his/her complaint about you? Just remember that they are highly likely not giving a crap about you making up for lost time now.
Validation is an excellent technique to prevent a situation from escalating if that's how your past communications went.
The complaints were from her about me. This is great advice. What I am hearing is that being mindful and keeping my ego in check is part and parcel of validating?
Escalating is the right word. To the point where it felt easier to avoid issues which of course only made things worse.
On the being vague part though, when I GAL, won't that add to her sense of mistrust?
M:36 W:34 T:9,M:4 Me,WAH:7/2011 My apology:12/2012 Her,WAW:01/2013 ILYBINILWY:4/2013 W's EA:5/2013 Sep:9/2013 2nd EA signs:03/2014
