Or is this inconveniencing him, b/c now he'll have to delay his trip? OR cut it short or, God forbid, cancel & re-schedule it? What does it have to do with telling her anything?
Originally Posted By: hope456
Sometimes, I really want to shake my H. We just had this conversation.
H: When do you think we should talk to D7?
Me: I was thinking over the weekend would be good. That gives her some time to process.
H: Ok.
Me: Ok. H: the thing is, I was thinking about going camping this weekend.
Yes, H, as always, it is about you. Thanks for the reminder.
Yeah, so, how does that 'plan' relate to telling her? When would HE LIKE to tell her?
God, what about when she asks him 3 totally predictable follow up questions?
D's Question# 1) WHEN are you coming home?
Answer: (Um, when I FIND happiness..When it lands in my lap..."never"..."Who knows?")
D's Question #2) Why not?
"Because I am not as happy as I should/could/want to be...and therefore leaving your mother and you, will FIX it.
"B/C YOUR MOTHER/and or YOU don't MAKE me happy".
"I just have to.... & or
"SOMEDAY YOU WILL UNDERSTAND" (which is sadly, probably true)
D's Question #3) "Why did you keep telling me '4 months'?"
"Oh, that...yeah, uh, I changed my mind"
my personal favorite, (aka 'the Noble Lie)
"I wanted to tell you earlier, but I didn't want to hurt you..." (="easier for me to lie")
"I hoped things would change, but they didn't"
(and I didn't do a damn thing to make that happen) And yet Hope, he'd probably kill or die for her. In HIS way, he does love her.
But he's very limited in what he's able to give her now, or you...and maybe he'll be that way for a very long long time.
You, OTOH, are doing great. What a wonderful gift you are for your d to have.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
