I'm sorry about your daughter. It sounds like you have thought about your decisions and think it's the best idea. That should be good enough. Although, I know it's difficult when others are trying to chime in with what you are doing and what you should do.
I think it's great you are focusing on you. It can be difficult while raising kids to forget what you like to do. Utilize this time and make those positive changes going forward. It's a marathon not a sprint:-)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
Hey Thornton, I do need to work out and it would probably help. I'm just angry because I wish he could forgive me instead of forgetting me. I know that is something that I can't control or change. I do feel like I have failed at DB as my M is heading towards D.
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
I just got upset because my STBXH just moved up signing the decree to file from end of June to 3 weeks earlier. I don't understand why a week ago he had an issue doing it earlier at my suggestion but now it is a different story. I should not have called him and broken down over the phone. He was mad that I was upset so. Ugh
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
Really feeling the anger of this situation and the divorce...I feel like being mean and cold to my STBXH because of how hurt I feel but I know that this isn't the right thing to do. We are signing and filing tomorrow. I just want to scream and punch something. I may just take off my ring when I sign the papers because it is done and final at that point. I thought I would want to keep my hope of a R down the road but I am angry, hurt and pi$$ed off that I just want to be done with my STBXH for good so he can regret me forever and I can just move on. I didn't expect to feel this way. I feel vengeful.... I'm surprised.....thoughts?
Last edited by CSan00; 06/05/1411:28 PM.
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
I'm sorry as it is completely understandable that you are hurt and angry. Feel those emotions and work through them. Punch a pillow. Break a plate. Do a kickboxing workout. Yell. Whatever helps to release it. However, I suggest no R talk with your h. You will get baited and react.
Focus on you and the kids. You will be okay. Hang in there!
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
Feeling angry is a normal reaction to what you're going through. Remember, your feelings may fluctuate rather quickly so don't react (at least in front of him).
Release the anger so you can feel more balanced. It's not over until you say it's over.
I am feeling a bit better now...still feel like a fool for even trying after he kept talking about the divorce. Not sure if I can continue to be in contact with him afterwards...
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
It's not foolish to try and save your M, that's a wonderful character trait IMO. Give it everything you've got, that way you can move on without regret if you have to.
