AAAHHHH! I'm getting VerKlempt (I don't know how to spell it). I am crying, so you know. You are so blessed to have the ability to hear people come to you. I always wanted my mom to come to me and it never happens.

My priest says that I'm looking in the wrong places. He said it could be something as simple as a cardinal on the branches. I want to be more enlightened!! Stages of the cross this year...I'm in.

Betsey, I truly hope this tragedy can be a catalyst for Mr. W to take stock and really take a hard look at his choices. I don't think I ever mentioned this, but I have a sister that is 7 years older than me. When she was born her oxygen was cut off and she is TOTALLY mentally retarded. She is in good health but her brain functions at that of a toddler. The reason I mention this is that I believe my dad went through a lot of what Mr. W is going through. He most certainly lost his faith.

My dad wanted me to name my children after my sister because he sees her as an angel on earth, I think he has a lot of guilt about the way he handled things. My mom patterned her (that's an old fashioned word, but something tells me you'll know what I mean) and meanwhile my dad started his MLC. Once my mom got cancer it was all down hill.

I know I'm rambling, but I guess my point is that Mr. W is at a crossroads now and I really hope he makes good choices. Thank GOD he didn't have an OW because I think the guilt of that on top of everything else would be too much.

You're a good friend Betsey. Your post yesterday really made me feel like I was doing the right thing. Thank you so much. I read the post to my sister (not the one I spoke of above ) and she couldn't believe how on target you were. She said she was glad she was able to hear that because she was afraid I was getting my support from people in LaLaland