Originally Posted By: db2013
I met up with a friend yesterday who is going through a discovery journey with his wife. Hearing how they are communicating about their fears and worries about their marriage was uplifting.

But it also made me wonder what do I do about my situation?

Every time I have doubts about this, I go back and read Sandi's rules which are fantastic.

But I also can't help but wonder if doing nothing in a long distance situation is the right thing to do?

Friend recommended I send WAW a small subtle gift. Sandi's rule #8 immediately came to mind but I didn't mention it.

Then re-watching "Fireproof" I see a message to continue loving acts regardless of how they are received.

I seem to be getting hints to do something at this stage.

The question is: Is doing nothing doing actually something or do I really need to take charge (in the context of the long distance) and do something?
Vets your advice would be most welcome (I would beg & plead for advice but I read somewhere that that can be a real turn off : ) ).


This is something I am fighting with at the moment. I'm getting on with WAW great at the moment and last night she emailed two pics of her and D to me for no reason. This all so difficult.

My thoughts are with you my friend!


M 35 W 31
D 10
Married 3 years
Together 11
Single since Nov 13
Moved out Dec 13
ILYBNILWY, 'I don't want to be a boring housewife, 'I don't fancy you any more'
OM confirmed Jun 14