No, no, negative push back is what I meant. If your H is like me, and avoids conflicts, he will not appreciate your disapproval or scorn or anger. Acceptance is what he needs (again, if he is like me), and I think should get, at least for a while.
What does he disapprove of or get irritated by? Is he right?
He is at fault for having an affair, imo, no matter how you slice it. You cannot control him, but you can control you, so (re furniture) state your needs, using I statements (e.g. I would like some/need help with moving the furniture, please). He should (if decent) help, as it is not only his problem. Restate your problem if he doesn't respond (not to bug, just to be clear). I wouldn't do this more than twice though.
Focus on you. Get what you need from him.
gtg - Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
