I wanted him to know that I know the truth. That I don't believe the lies he's leading others to believe
He knows. If not he is indeed worried you know (by defending it/lying to others).
Plus, this is poker time... don't show you have 4 aces in your hand until a bet is on the table (leave this for your attorney to bring up, if need-be)
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
You weren't wrong for not responding when he reached out. Dbing is for you. No contact is for you. If there are no real questions, then it isn't necessary to respond. If you are dealing with an irrational person with erractic behavior, then sometimes ANY response is met with vitrol.
You ceased your pursuing behavior and it sounds like you are doing a good job. Don't mention the 18 year old. I agree with not revealing your hand. I have an entire deck of cards at this point, and I'm not interested in showing most of them unless absolutely necessary.
Stay the course.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
He will be pushed away because he will know that I know. It's already been ascertained that depending on who he is with he is ashamed of what he's doing because he only admits it to certain people. He is avoiding the reality of what he's doing with people he was close with and is living in his new dream world that only includes her and her new family. So I imagine it would push him closer to them and give them something else to laugh at me about
I know you are hurt and that is understandable. However, please think about the people laughing at you. They don't know you. I know as grown-ups that it is difficult to think we would be in this position and here we are.
Focus on you. Try not to worry about people who don't know you laughing at you. You don't have anything to be ashamed of. You are working, raising your boys, and trying to be the best TO possible. That is something to be proud of in your life!
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
However, please think about the people laughing at you. They don't know you.
And Further, I contend they are not laughing at you; no sane, logical, adult looks at him knowing he left a 10 year marriage, 2 kids, dating a 18 year old and says....
"ha-ha, T0324 sure let him slip away".
They actually say/think:
"gee, Mr. T0324 looks to be having one hell of a MLC, did you see her? she is almost 1/2 his age"
"I wonder if he will be at her grad party?"
Originally Posted By: T0324
He will be pushed away because he will know that I know. It's already been ascertained that depending on who he is with he is ashamed of what he's doing because he only admits it to certain people. He is avoiding the reality of what he's doing with people he was close with and is living in his new dream world that only includes her and her new family. So I imagine it would push him closer to them and give them something else to laugh at me about
So, do you think its a good idea to send the letter?
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
Yes, TO. Please remember that my almost 41 year old h is dating a just turned 28 year old vet student. They hooked up after he had a breakdown on Twitter where he tweeted a series of 12 or so tweets that said "I hate myself. I'm so stupid. I just want someone to love me. I want someone to want me." This woman said "I want to rescue you" and voila. Do you think that looks like a normal way to start a relationship?
Woundedfool is soooooooo right. Most folks in reality are thinking that Mr. TO looks a bit like a fool.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
Please remember that my almost 41 year old h is dating a just turned 28 year old vet student. They hooked up after he had a breakdown on Twitter where he tweeted a series of 12 or so tweets that said "I hate myself. I'm so stupid. I just want someone to love me. I want someone to want me." This woman said "I want to rescue you" and voila. Do you think that looks like a normal way to start a relationship?
My WAW went the other route, she is trying to rescue OM who is fresh out of prison after close to 20 years.
Do you think her family and friends laugh at me? No, they don't even laugh at exW, they cry.
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
And the only reason I think they laugh at me is because his boss family and all their friends still hang out with H like everything is normal
They do? Have you joined them? Are you sure they are not the awkward couple that attaches their way into social events (because she is not old enough to go to the bar)?
Or are you trying to mind read again?
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Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
I received some screen shots from a friend of H's of texts h sent him back in February talking about the teenager. 'She is so supportive of me and I can't wait for you to meet her you'd really like her she's been there for me and understands what I'm going through because she has been through a divorce with her parents. She has my best interest. She said that W clearly makes me unhappy and that I shouldn't settle for a M like that.'
