try to think of husband as like an acquaintance at the grocery store...that is what he deserves to know right now

so would you tell an acquaintance that you have come to accept that you will just be doing xyz without them?

I was a single mom of two boys (12 months apart) for a good long while...

you can TOTALLY do everything...it's not easy or ideal or how we planned but it is do-able

Once you find that you can do it (and do it without resentment) you will see and know how much stronger you are.

it is a liberating feeling.