I just read about your MIL and you and your family have my sympathy. I appreciate understanding about how she impacted your life. This sounds as if this loss can offer mixed feelings – depending on how you experienced her. I so admire your perspective – it reminds me of something I just read about our “second journey” (or as some would label – MLC):
“Second journeys usually end quietly with a new wisdom and a coming to a true sense of self that releases great power… It is a wisdom that gives some things up, lets some things dies, and accepts human limitations…… It is a wisdom that has faced the pain caused by parents, spouse, family, friends, colleagues, and has truly forgiven them and acknowledge with unexpected compassion that these people are neither angels nor devils, but only humans.” -Brennan Manning
You mentioned MW may have not gotten to resolve some things w/his mom, is that right? If so, I would hope that at some point, MW would realize that even though she is now dead, it does not mean he is powerless to take some steps to make peace with her. Does that sound strange? I used to work as a chaplain in the hospital and worked with grief issues a bit. I can tell you that death does not need to stop someone from resolving relationship issues. If you need me to share more on that, I will.
On a lighter note, let me share my regret that this thread has maintained a three-star rating. It goes to show that some fail to see a five-star thread when it is glaringly apparent! I am also glad that South Dakota Bob’s positive attributes are being fully appreciated! )
Take care for now,
Laurie, Divorce Busting Coach Contact The Divorce Busting Center at 303-444-7004 or 800-664-2435 if you would like to schedule a telephone consultation with a DB Coach - or email virginia@divorcebusting.com for info.
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