Thanks Will!

Feeling better after appointment with IC and talking to my sister. Although I keep saying that I have to stop analyzing every interaction we have I continue to do just that. Realized though that I am usually analyzing the negative aspect of it (maybe an admittance that I'm more negative than I think). The fact that we are interacting at all, other than financial things (3 months ago there was no communication, is a total positive.

* Kids have been out of school for a couple of weeks and he has not mentioned telling them the situation
* he is going on vacation with us
* we are communicating more frequently and the conversations are getting longer
* he is sometimes the one to initiate and keep the conversation going
* yesterday we talked about replacing carpet in kids bedroom, I didn't think about this as a positive or negative until my sister pointed out that if he still cares about the "house" he hasn't slammed the door on coming home. This is also an opportunity for me to do a 180! Yay!! In the past we'd discuss doing things (ie getting new appliances) and I would go look around but never actually take ACTION, time to take action!

Yesterday my IC also pointed out that I have been showing genuine appreciation for him, didn't even really think about it that way! I thanked him for letting me know about his back issues and thanked him for calling son before he left for boot camp! Yay me!!


Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since