Thank for your words GB. I get what you mean about the cookies and I understand the embarrassment as I feel the same way. Just embarrassment that I'm not good enough to be with over a teenager
Wounded - can you be specific on what you mean to show him I appreciate him in the 180? You know he did reach out after I went pretty dark and would ask me things about our animals and stupid things. I just never responded. Then he stopped after he did this a few times and didn't get a response from me . Is that what I'm supposed to be doing is completely ignoring him on anything except the kids and household bills? I also have told him since day one I was validating his feelings - I'm sorry I made you feel that way I'm sorry you felt nothjng was good enough. When he would ever actually put money in the bank to help I would make sure to text him and say thank you for taking care of this, etc.
Any specific things I should do from your perspective would be greatly appreciated. I am not ready to give up but I really don't see how he will change his mind now that I know he's been in a full fledged relationship since before he left.
