Hmm. I've been saying I wish my H would be able to say I'm sorry without a "but" ("I'm sorry, but [insert justification for behavior here]". Today I got an I'm sorry, without a "but." Preceding it, H was telling me a story about a client whose wife was leaving him to illustrate that this "isn't just happening to us." Yes, I'm quite aware other people in the world are getting divorced, thanks. That doesn't mean that makes this OK!
H: If this doesn't work out, I'm sorry I put you through this. I'm sorry for hurting you. This isn't something I ever envisioned happening, until recently. [?? "until recently?" whatever that means] Me: OK. I understand. H: I just wanted to let you know. Me: OK. *sneaks off to cry in the bathroom for a while*
I don't know what, if anything, that means. Particularly the "if this doesn't work out" like it's a possibility and not a certainty. Blah. Not half an hour before all that, he was mad at me because I accidentally put a tissue through the laundry so there were little bits of tissue all stuck in the washing machine, and was saying that he was looking forward to not having to clean up "other people's messes."
You got what you wanted.
Did it have the effect you were after?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
