Thanks Georgia, You are right. My W's reasons have changed so many times and they cycle around like a spinning wheel. Maybe I need to lose some more of my sanity and I'll be more able to understand what can't be understood!
I do feel badly about the cat. We had her a long time and my W had to help her a her sister out of their mother as she was having trouble giving birth. She was a talker and I will miss her greatly.
I am in better spirits this morning and I need to stay focused. Thanks for the kind words and I'm sure I'll be in touch!