Frequently, they have someone or someones rooting them on. Why? Well if you were listening to someone complain about how horrible their life is then the tendency is to say "Move on!" or "Find someone who appreciates you." It doesn't make it truthful or accurate.
I think I shared on my thread that I took cookies to my h's office. This was before I knew he was telling him essentially that I was Lucifer and had ruined his life (and I'm being very kind with what he said about me to his 20 something coworkers). Looking back, I felt ridiculous. But like so many told me here...why should I be embarrassed? I brought some freaking cookies and was pleasant to everyone like I always am. It's what I like to do. Nothing to hang my head in shame over. You also have to remember that I'm sure your h is not sharing his shortcomings with his *friends*. We ALL have them. However, I bet the focus was more on all that you did wrong in his eyes versus anything he did. I'm sure your h is playing the ever popular *victim* card which should be sold at Hallmark:)Remember, you can't control what he says or does. Just how you react and how you behave.
Don't let this get you down. I know it is hurtful, however, don't let this keep you from moving forward. You are doing a great job focusing on you and your boys. You are making some positive changes and that's great for YOU!
Last edited by Georgiabelle; 06/05/1412:53 PM.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
