Hi AJ and thanks! I keep thinking about all the ways I could have handled things differently over the last several years. If I had not done this or had done that. If I had pushed her to get a job sooner or "made" her do the things she refused to do. I know you are right and part of me really sees that no matter what, my W would probably have ended up exactly where she is right now because I didn't cause her problems and nothing I could have done would have fixed them.
Funny that you say that about wondering why I stayed.... Some of this anger is for myself for being stupid enough to do all I have and to work as hard as I have while my W does NOTHING to try yo save her M! That's the hardest part for me. My W never tried the tiniest bit after 20 years together. After going on and on about not believing in D and that she would never put her kids through that! Of course that's common with MLCers from what I see on this board. I guess it was more so that my W had been through so much with her parents D and had been so hurt by it, I thought that would make it certain she would never do it herself. Boy was I wrong!
