She is dwelling on all the negative things in our past. Things that I said that suggest that I didn't love her enough, I was not happy enough, etc. Sometimes I am a bit too honest. One thing that has deprives me of joy in our marriage is our money situation. We seem to be on a cycle of racking up debt with sometimes refinancing our mortgage coming to our rescue. After 15 years, the balance on our mortgage is just under the amount we borrowed to buy the house. The problem stem from biting off more that we can chew:
- Private schooling for kids - She doesn't work full time on only brings in $500/month during the school year. - Largish house - She looks like around at friends and neighbors (many of which, both spouses work) see that kind of things they do around the house and the trips they take (Disney) and feels entitled to the same.
