I hope you will seriously consider removing all your things from xbf's place. Since you have moved, it would be a good time to take care of it. That particular action would support your resolve in dropping the rope. By leaving your things at his place, it is giving him a contridictive message.

And about the business end, can't your lawyer put some pressure on him to do whatever needs done to wind up things? I mean, he may never make a move toward giving you financial independence, if he's allowed to sit there and take his own sweet time. And considering he even suggested possibly helping in getting a house for you, I wonder if he wants to keep you dependent on him.......in some form. Doesn't sound healthy to me.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!