25, I have friends who were in the same dynamic... And oddly enough, she is 11 years older than her now second XH. One night, we were drinking wine and she got loopy enough to tell me that she only "gave in" once or twice a year. I flat out told her that it was a recipe for divorce unless her H was ok with it. He was not. Incidentally, she told me that after the change, she faked having desire and a libido until she couldn't do it anymore and shut the system down altogether. I did my darnedest to try to convince her to talk to a doctor about it, especially if her marriage was important to her. I guess it wasn't. She's doing really well now, and her XH is getting remarried to his college sweetie this fall.
Who knows why people make the choices they do. I certainly wouldn't. But then again, I'm divorced and I didn't get he chance to work on things with my XH. Ironically something he says periodically to me and my daughter was the most colossal mistake of his life. Go figure.
Carry on...
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
