KGirl, I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's an awful place to be. My H and I are separated a little over a month and honestly, it feels like it was for the best. It was WAY too emotionally intense when we were together. He had an A and while he claimed it was over he was on his phone all the time making me constantly suspicious and anxious that they were still in contact. While separation is tough (the worst part is my kids are gone with him part time) it has definitely helped me maintain my sanity and get a better grip on things. I hope you end up feeling some benefits from it as well and not just the heartache.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
