Last thread was locked a few days ago so I figured it was time for a new one. H is now getting his own apartment this week. He and his lawyer received my counter petition to the divorce. We just stated that the husband alleges the marriage is irretrievably broken and that was it. He and I do not discuss anything but the boys and bills. He has never brought up the divorce to me since March and that was to just tell me he was thinkng of seeing a lawyer. I feel like it's an odd elephant in the room.
I have read DB and read DR twice. I guess I am feeling discouraged. I feel like I have been doing LRT and been pretty dark (minus the kids) since I joined here in early April. He does not reach out to me. He hasn't once even said hi or hello or how are you via text he just will say 'do the boys need this' or what are the boys doing. Not a hi please thank you nothing. I know I need to work on detaching. I feel in such a strange place after finding out about 18 year old GF. I find myself wondering if I reacted differently when he first left in February and March would things be different. Could DB had worked?
I am setting up a coaching session for next week as I need some specific direction on how to handle my H and interactions with him. If I should continue NC minus the kids or what? I know there is probably no saving my marriage anymore but I am not ready to give up.
